Since the pandemic started in early 2020, it has been a struggle for most as we have all tried to make the best of the situation and stretched ourselves beyond our limits. My friend, Dayo, is expecting her second baby and I have asked her to share her experience of being pregnant with her second child during these times. I hope you will enjoy reading it.
When I found out I was pregnant with my first son, I was apprehensive and elated. Back then, the world was “normal”. I worked in the corporate world and my only desire was to see myself at the top of the corporate ladder. When I got pregnant again in the middle of a pandemic in the year 2020, I wasn’t quite as elated but I was just as apprehensive as the first time. I was in the process of relaunching my career in the middle of a pandemic and lockdown when I became pregnant.
During my first pregnancy, I was able to do a lot more to prepare for my son. For example, by my third trimester, I had had at least three ultrasounds with videos and pictures of my so for keepsake and to drool over. So far with my second child, I have had only one. Having experienced great care with my first child, I often wonder if my second is only getting the bare minimum. I wonder if she feels like she is missing anything. Does she feel less loved?
While pregnant with my son, I was able to take part in a number of activities. I remember meeting up with friends to eat food that repelled me. In hindsight, that was fun because being pregnant in a pandemic now means I have had to be extra cautious with outings while being repelled by thought of food I can’t even go out to eat!
Perhaps the biggest change for me will be the availability of “help”. With my son, I knew I wanted my mom around to help me, and thankfully we were able to make this happen. Her Canadian visa was approved in a record 10 days! I still marvel at how quickly that happened. For my daughter, I would love to have my mom come over again, however, I have to be realistic. The current pandemic procedures has resulted in her visa application pending for a while, despite applying for it a few months ago. According to the Canadian immigration website, a visa application could take up to 280 days! I can only hope she will get the visa before my daughter arrives.
However, it is safe to say that I have commenced preparing myself mentally for an alternative plan. The early days of being a new mom to my son is blurry and I may just have taken things such as jaundice, colic, and early teething for granted as I had my mum to help me through it. I now need to prepare fro my daughter while praying for speedy healing for our world.